Forgiveness

Forgiveness means choosing to let go of anger or hurt when someone has wronged you. It doesn’t mean forgetting or saying what they did was okay, but it frees you from carrying negative feelings. Forgiving helps you feel lighter and more in control of your own happiness.
— Can Do Kiwis

What forgiveness really means

Forgiveness is about letting go of anger and hurt so you can feel free and at peace. It’s a choice you make for yourself—not about saying what happened was okay.

  • Forgiving helps you feel less stressed and sad.

  • It can make your relationships better and help you understand others more.

  • Forgiveness takes time—it’s a process, not something that happens all at once.

  • It’s good for your body and mind, helping you stay healthy and happy.

  • Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting or having to be friends again. It’s about freeing yourself from carrying the pain.

Why forgive?

  1. Notice the hurt
    Admit how what happened made you feel.

  2. Think it through
    Try to see the situation from your side and theirs.

  3. Try to understand
    Imagine what the other person might have been feeling or going through.

  4. Let go of revenge
    Decide not to hold onto anger or want to get back at them.

  5. Choose to forgive
    Keep choosing forgiveness, even if it’s hard sometimes.

How to forgive

Forgiving yourself

Don’t forget to forgive yourself too. Everyone makes mistakes—learn from them and move on without beating yourself up.

Forgiveness is a powerful way to heal and grow. It helps you live lighter and happier.

When you forgive, you in no way change the past - but you sure do change the future.
— Bernard Meltzer